Monday, February 20, 2012

My two cents :: Babies

Ok, I went through this phase where I was anti-weddings/marriage back in 2007-2009?  Fast forward to 2009, D and I got engaged.  I’m still pretty cynical of weddings for a number of reasons, which explains why D and I “eloped.”  I like to think I’ve matured a bit and have come to enjoy weddings as a time to drink have fun.  
D and I attended quite a number of weddings last year.  I can not exactly remember how many weddings, but I think we ended up counting six?  

 [KD's wedding in June 2011]

[B&M's wedding]

They keep coming, but we’ll go to significantly fewer this year than last.  Just when I thought weddings were dwindling and we were coming into an era of enjoying newlyweds and less wedding gifts, it begins.  The era of babies.  Now my thoughts on bringing another living thing (pets included) into our little family remains the same as it did two years ago.  I’ve bitched on twitter  quite a few times about the overwhelming amount of ultrasounds posted on facebook recently (although I genuinely thank CAP for not posting hers), and don’t even get me started on the scariness that is 3-D ultrasounds.  Between real-life friends, blogger friends, and social media, I think half the people I know are pregnant.

I should have seen it coming.  I should have been prepared.  Nonetheless, I’m not.  I’m not ready for crying babies to be taking over hang out time with friends.  I’m not ready for beer tastings with D to be accompanied by babies.  I’m not ready to be continually bombarded by a million pictures of babies on every social media outlet I have.

My bitchiness aside, I actually do enjoy watching the changes in those with babies.  Claire has the cutest family, and I genuinely enjoy reading about the ups, downs, and in-betweens of her life as a stay-at-home mom.  I even enjoy watching her little one grow and develop.  I am excited to attend my first baby shower for CAP and her little one on the way.  I hope I can find the time to make something for the little babe.  It can be amazing to read birth stories (although they still sometimes make me cringe a bit and continually increase my fear of ever birthing a child) and hear how mothers’ hearts grow ten times that day.  I guess I am maturing a little bit and accepting the age of the babes in my life.

Don’t get me wrong though, I’ll enjoy the tiny ones in others lives…D and I are quite content spending our income enjoying beer and travels for now.


Kristin Miller said...

The truest thing in this post: "birth stories continually increase my fear of ever birthday a child." STORY. OF. MY. LIFE. Especially when a friend had 30 hours of labor, and TERRIBLE birth story because she NEEDED a natural birth, and suffered dearly for it. Did I mention it took me a full 40 minutes to read it? Yup. I would have to say your baby apprehension mirrors and your wedding apprehension because they're similar: insane women who want everything to be perfect, freak out when it's not, get all emotional and hormonal, even though it's what happens in the end: a wedding or baby. UGH. When I have a kid (Eek) I want it to be healthy. That's it. I put no pressure on said unborn child. Do what you want kid. I'm just your vehicle toward this world.

meghan said...

I'm so afraid of baby time taking over friend time. It's going to start happening soon, and slowly all my friends that are resenting it with me will also be popping out those kids and will become part of the dark side. Ugh. I'm with you...give me a long long time.

Claire {Beaktweets} said...

I couldn't believe how quickly our stage of life went from weddings to babies. and i understand how hard it is for babies to take over spending time with friends. we have a baby and it's hard for me when we don't get the same quality time. hopefully for you guys it'll be a smooth transition with your friends.

oh, and i'm glad you enjoy watching mere grow :)

Christina said...

Ugh all of this is so true. We go from being bridesmaids in 50 weddings a year after college, to attending 20 a year after that, and now, it's baby showers every weekend! Slow down girls!!!!

Content Director - Strong Female Leaders said...

No reason to rush through life just because everyone else is. Enjoy your beer.

Natalie said...

I've been feeling the same way as you lately. My facebook has been taken over by baby pictures. It's refreshing to spend time with friends and not talk about breastfeeding or baby showers!

M. Eileen said...

I still can't decide when/if I want a baby. I love borrowing my friends, and I even work with kids!

I love your talk about beers! My husband is into craft brewerys and recently took me to a new one in RVA, Hardywood park! Have ya'll heard of it?


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